Being a Mentee

Do's and Don'ts of the Mentee

  • Be considerate and follow-through on commitments.
  • Seriously consider all advice you receive. 
  • Make it easy for your mentor to give you corrective feedback.  Ask early and often.
  • Observe how your mentor approaches tasks and problem-solves, utilize your mentor as a role model.
  • Look for opportunities to give something back to your mentor. 
  • Make only positive or neutral comments about your mentor to others.
  • Demonstrate your appreciation for your mentor’s advice and commitment by acknowledging their commitment and contributions.
  • Depend on your mentor to identify your goals for you.
  • Assume your mentor has unlimited time for you.  Be thorough, but succinct in your explanations, experiences and comments.
  • Get defensive.  Honest feedback gives you an opportunity to improve yourself toward your potential
  • Be closed-minded.  Arguing why you disagree with the mentor’s advice or suggestion could be construed as rude or close-minded.
  • Say “Yes, but….”
  • Lose touch with your mentor after the formalized relationship has ended.
Mentee Roles

Mentees are self-motivated individuals who are committed to personal and professional growth. As a mentee, it is your responsibility to take ownership of your learning and development needs. Specific functions include:

  • Driver of Relationship:  A mentee identifies the skills, knowledge and/or goals that he/she wants to achieve and communicates them to his/her mentor.
  • Development Planner:  A mentee works with his or her mentor to seek resources for learning by identifying people and information that might be helpful.
  • Contributor:  A mentee looks for opportunities to give back to his or her mentor.
  • Life-long learner:  A mentee takes full advantage of opportunities to learn.        
Characteristics of an Effective Mentee
  • Positive outlook and attitude
  • Eager and open to learn proactively
  • Patient, responsive and respectful of mentor’s role and time
  • Comfortable receiving objective feedback
  • Works as a “team player”
  • Comfortable being stretched out of a comfort zone
Responsibilities of the Mentee
  • Prepare a list of your career goals and objectives to share with your mentor.
  • Establish, with mentor, your explicit goals and objectives for the relationship.
  • Assist in developing the Mentoring Agreement with your mentor.
  • Commit to meeting with mentor on a regular basis. Establish how and when those meetings will take place. Tell your mentor how you prefer to get feedback.
  • Complete progress reports and regularly re-assess needs.
  • Be proactive in requesting feedback.
  • Review agreements reached in the Mentoring Agreement at regular intervals of the partnership.
  • Keep an accurate record of your development and progress.
  • Read and listen to your mentor’s comments carefully and be open to different perspectives.
  • Maintain the confidentiality of the relationship.